Defiance

 If there's one thing I'm notorious for is being incendiary. I have a tendency to go down in blazes of glory. I can't speak for others with this trait but my daughter has it, I see it in her. I think I get it from having survived a very abusive child minder in my formative years. My mom left me with a neighbour when she returned to work after I was born. The lady I was left with used violence, even getting her husband to hit me the day I held back whailing out in pain from her strikes. Weird flex but even her husband couldn't make me baw. So I guess in addition to carpe diem,and  memento mori, my othermotto in life is do your worst, bruce lee advised on the path of least resistance, I''ve found incredible strength from choosing the path of most resistance.


Thalonius dot blogspot dot com, probably only 5% complete and someupdates are justplaceholders with  titles to remindmeoftherelevantanecdote.Some stories are incomplete like this one. That  updates is titled defiance. But here’s a summary...


 I was little (less than 7yo when a full grown man under instructions from his wife hit me as hard as he could on multiple occasions with the simple intention of making me cry in order to satisfy his wife's perverse desire to see me punished sufficiently after her blows didn't elicit a reaction. I'm still chagrined that I withstood the pain and didn't so much as whimper, I'm quite proud to have deprived those sadists of the satisfaction they sought. I always win. 

They gave me a gift in a way though: a future update on the blog  I'll title "my mental chalkboard"


Watch out not only do I try to be physically stronger everyday, I'm also trying to be smarter.

Watch out for this! Going to share that song  in my stories after this,Anyway the song uses the word Bumaye, which means kill him in Lingala. I'm reminded of that because her instructions were "hit him!" or "harder and other such variations.


Long story short, consider the temperment of those entrusted with your children.


Goodnight peeps. My mom said I was a good boy today and I didn't realize how much I needed to hear that again. All is well, I am strong 💪.

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